Wednesday, March 31, 2010

Protective Parenting

Maybe I'm overprotective. My daughter is a funny sweet girl who is also a little sensitive. She wants everyone to be friends, and doesn't understand why everyone isn't. (Ahhhh... to be 6!) Her only real friends until kindergarten were her cousins who were friends with her whether or not they wanted to be. She loves them without question no matter what happens with them. They are family and even though she gets annoyed with her brother, she can't understand why sometimes they don't seem to want to hang out with her. Then in kindergarten she wound up with the most amazing class ever. You know that class you dream of having your kid be in - the perfect teacher, the nice kids, happiness all around? That was her kindergarten. There were, of course, a couple kids who were less than perfect sometimes, but that's to be expected. But even they got along with everyone. Those 20-something kids were a cohesive unit.
Now we have her 1st grade class. There are some sweet kids.... most of them are kids that were in her kinder class. And then there are some that make me want to scream. This morning my girl was running to the line (it's always a race to get there first) and one of the boys ran to stop her and literally grabbed her arms and held her back so that someone else could get there first. It was a boys vs girls thing. The boy in question is actually one of the not so bad ones. However, he was manhandling my little girl! And there were TWO parents standing right there, neither of which thought to say, "Um, we don't touch each other like that!" So I had to yell from 20 yards away, "Please let go of her." He apologized right away. He's 6 or 7, and doesn't understand that maybe that's not ok. But the parents do!! Ugh.

Like I said, maybe I'm overprotective.

By the way... despite being held back, she still beat the other kid. Heehee.

Saturday, March 27, 2010

Corvallis vs Everywhere Else

I've lived in Corvallis for a little over five years now. Not once has it really felt like "home." This is not to say I don't like it here, it is a nice area, but when I was in NJ, NY and CA I felt at home almost immediately. These areas aren't perfect either. For instance, NY and CA have sales tax, something I have grown used to not having here in OR. I'm spoiled like that. I also want to say that this blog isn't an indication that I'm going to move. I couldn't afford it right now anyway. This entry is basically a bit of whining about why I would like to live elsewhere, but acknowledging the things that keep me here.

First of all - almost all of my friends live somewhere else. My best friends live in either NY or CA. My best friend in the world is having a baby any day now and I don't get to meet him until he is 3 months old. And even then, I'm only going to be there for 24 hours! I only got to see her when she was maybe 3 months pregnant - and unlike me at 3 months that brat wasn't showing. (I'm not bitter over my whale-like state while pregnant. Really.) When I was preggers with Owen, one of my other best buds was preggers with her second that was also a boy. I would have loved to have done that together in person instead of via email! Sometimes I just want to drag my kids over to Erin's so we can watch Bones (THURSDAY!!!) while the kids destroy toys, but it's a 500 mile drive or 2 hour flight, so not really happening. I have my group here, and I LOVE my MHMs.  (When are we going out again girls?) But in a lot of ways it's not the same. I hope that one day it will be more like it is with my other friends if we all stay in the area for a long time. But there is something about just hanging out with someone who knows you really well and has for a loooooong time. I don't have to explain me - they already know.

Another Corvallis negative - food and culture. Oy. Granted, I lived 14 years in the NY Metropolitan area (or near it at least).  Food was yummy. Pizza was real pizza. Chinese was GOOOOOD. Field trips were to The Museum of Natural History, The Metropolitan Museum of Art and The Bronx Zoo. Shopping was awesome. There were huge malls everywhere with more stores than I could know what to do with, or possibly spend my very little money at. California had a million places to eat that were awesome. (In case you haven't noticed - it's all about the food for me. It's why I'm fat) There are places there I still want to go to and haven't.  And I cry a little when I think of Saporros or Smalleys. Even Bubba Gumps. How many birthdays did our group do there? Here the restaurants are alright at best. I have yet to be blown away by anything food wise in Corvallis. Thankfully, we recently got a Chipotle, so I can get a yummy over-priced burrito now. Every chinese place is just "eh." There is good sushi! But sushi is sort of good or really not, right? Don't get me started on the pizza. There is some good stuff that they call pizza. It's not really pizza as far as I'm concerned.  But it is still pretty good. I almost wept when we got a Trader Joe's. Seriously. There were some tears. As for culture.... well, I can go to Portland. They do OK there. But....

Okay, now before you think that I hate Corvallis, I should say that I really don't. Unlike Salinas, I will not get shot here for making the wrong hand gesture while talking in the car or for wearing the wrong color to the mall.  Or just walking in the mall at all, for that matter. People here seem unaware of what living in a gang area really means. I think some of them think those shows on the History Channel are fictional. It's all sunshine, lollipops and rainbows in Corvallis. We had one kidnapping/murder before I moved here. But neither the victim or the murderer were actually from Corvallis, if I remember correctly. Since then.... ummm.... those frat boys sure cause a ruckus downtown. Of course, given enough to drink, so do my MHMs. :) As far as public schools go, Emily's is alright. It's not the greatest (there is no art program and the music program is minimal at best) but the teachers are good, and the administration does seem to really care about the students. Specifically for me, the entire faculty seems to know who Emily is, and not for bad reasons. The principal is very active in making sure Emily gets all she needs and makes sure he is always keeping up on her progress. He has even started asking about Owen - making sure they are ready for him when he arrives. Em goes to speech, so he was asking if I think Owen will need it too, so we can stay on top of it before he even starts. By the way - Owen turns 3 next month! He doesn't start kindergarten for over 2 years!

We also live in a nice neighborhood. Thanks to my momma, we live in a house far beyond our means. It's not big. As my daughter often points out, all of my friends have nicer houses in the area. But, the backyard is huge (biggest in the entire neighborhood. You can google earth it.) and it is only a 5 minute walk to the school. Even more exciting - soon the house will be just ours. Woo. And speaking of my momma - she lives 40 minutes away. I can't imagine not living near her. She is the only babysitter I trust. Bonus: she does sleepovers on occassion! 

Sooooo..... what's my point? I guess I don't really have one. Aren't you glad you wasted your time reading this? Seriously though, I guess it's just that moving around a lot can suck. Especially when you wind up essentially stuck someplace when you would rather be somewhere else. But if I had to get stuck somewere, I am glad that it is here. And that I managed to get into Hoover school so I could meet the MHMs. At least they know I am mean, bitter and sarcastic and I don't have to pretend to be nice and "super-mommy" for them. (My kids eat candy and chips people - deal with it! They also eat green beans and brocolli, ok!?!? But that is a topic for another blog/rant) But I also really really miss my people! I guess that is the real point of the blog - I miss you guys!!  Love you!!

Ok.... next blog, less upsetting. Promise.

Friday, March 26, 2010

The Rest of Me

I spend a lot of time on the computer. Between school, my TV blog, Facebook, email, and all the other sites I frequent, a lot of my time is spent with my pretty pink laptop. A portion of the reason for this is because almost all my friends live so far away, and FB is the best (or at least easiest) way to keep in touch. Recently I've been having the itch to blog things that aren't TV related. I like to share my random thoughts with people, and I know everyone likes to hear them. (You do, don't you. Lie if you have to. My ego is fragile.)  Sometimes the 140 characters Twitter offers isn't enough (and isn't TwitLonger just cheating?) and I hate having extra long Facebook statuses. It's just annoying if you have to press "read more." So I decided to start this blog. Now I can bore you all with the rest of the the crap going on in my life besides TV watching. To be honest, it's not that much. But Seinfeld was a show about nothing, right? I'm sure I can come up with some crap to talk about on here!

What's on the agenda today?  Laundry!!!  Don't worry, I'm not going to bore you with stories about my laundry. Unless you want to hear about that....  No, I didn't think so. I also have some school work to get to. Is this semseter over with? I could go on with my frustration with the classes and teachers this time around, but I'm not sure that is appropriate. Don't worry... give me a couple weeks. I'm sure I'll remove the filter. Those who know me know that I don't really have one most of the time.

Something to look forward to....